Weeks ago while speaking at Genentech I was asked a question I could not provide a complete answer for. The question was, “How do I communicate with my friends about my cancer and how do they cope with it?”
I gave a very one-sided answer by responding with something along the lines of, “I am very honest with them. My style has always been to be direct; even before cancer. But, I tell them the truth and expect that they are telling me their truth too. My relationships with my 20-closest friends are all very intense. It’s hard to not be when I have a pretty good feeling they are all going to watch me die. And, I am very okay with that.”
How they cope with my cancer is very hard for me to answer. So, I’ve asked them. Over the next few weeks I am going to post snip-its from my dearest pals. They say 1 in 14 will be diagnosed with lung cancer. That leaves 13 people who have to cope with their friends being diagnosed. I think this is a large enough group that is worthy to hear from.